Style & Substance: Conflicting Loyalty

Once you have done this, if you are leaning toward dating him, then you will want to be up front with your friend. Before the 1st date, explain your decision in a not-asking- her, but more like gently telling-her, kind of way. Share no more with her, as it could be painful for her initially, and you ultimately don’t want to hurt her.

Take it slow with him, you know what we mean by that, as this will give you time to build a real friendship/relationship that is not defined purely by physical, “mouth-watering” attraction! Proceed with caution, if he is considering leaving the area, and ask him to clarify his aims in moving. Is he looking for a job, attending school, or is he on an adventure? His intentions will point to the direction he and you may want to take your relationship. Are you ready to commit to whatever the future may hold for the two of you as a couple?

This decision is a good indicator of your character and your approach to building and maintaining relationships – friendship, romantic, or even professional. Consideration of the feelings of others while being true to yourself is the standard by which you can evaluate yourself.

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