MaD advice

Mother/Daughter, cross-generational advice for women and those around them.

Sally & Anna Meisenheimer

Sally & Anna Meisenheimer

Being avid observers of life and having an innate curiosity of why people do what they do, we have decided to address general questions that help mothers and daughters, parents and children, and individuals grow together; to have strong and loving relationships, to support each other in life, and to maintain the roles that we have been assigned. As in all relationships, we may disagree on certain issues, but ultimately we agree on loving and communicating with each other. With that said, our first question is…

Dear MaD advice:

What do you see as mother and daughter roles once your daughter has reached adulthood?

From Sally:

I have always considered my role in my daughter’s life as to teach her how to fly, and no matter how old she gets, to maintain that role. There is so much to consider in the intentional raising of a fragile baby girl into an independent adult woman. There are times to hold close and times to let go, and these rhythms are constantly surprising, startling, challenging and ultimately joyous. My motto through my daughter’s life has been, “the right words at the right time”. Clarifying for myself what I am feeling, what I am concerned about, without speaking, has been the struggle and key to formulating and using those right words. I have had to defer to and acknowledge the roles of other important people in my daughter’s life without jealousy or worry that I was losing our relationship. Keeping current and relevant is what I find to be an all-important piece of any parent-adult child relationship.

From Anna:

I think all girls need a strong example from their mothers and other women in their life. My mother has always celebrated my spontaneity, strength, and strong-willed (sometimes stubborn) spirit all within the confines of a structured home and schooling environment. She has guided these traits in a direction that served me best – to learn and thrive. Most importantly, my mother led by example. She taught me grace in the face of adversity. That, above all, has shown me the power in failure - how to learn and recover from your mistakes and shortcomings, all with a smile on your face. It is beautiful. Our relationship continues to evolve; yet these values she taught me early have built a foundation of core principles that keep us connected. Without a doubt, there have been disagreements scattered along the way, and when my mother behaves “bigger” than me we have been able to resolve them with the least amount of damage. I have learned that “bigger” also means stronger, not weaker, and has been a role to which I aspire.

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