Style & Substance: Haunted by your first love

First love is a brand new experience of naïve passion and playfulness and therefore gut wrenching when over. Love has been defined by poets, celebrated in song, and survived and triumphed over by most human beings. Love, especially first love, is lustful and energetic, and driven by intense desire and need. Remember, first love does not always make sense, so it is hard to pinpoint the highlights. Feeling alive; young and carefree are choices that you can still make with the right “playmate”.

What you have now may be something closer to true, enduring love and that is contentment. Contentment is not boredom, it is stability, it is commitment, and it is lasting. You may find that adding some different aspects to define this relationship is what it needs to really come alive for you. If you feel you are missing the passion of a “first love” know that the “sweet feeling” can return by clarifying what mature love is to you; welcoming openness and honesty and a willingness to connect.

If you and your current boyfriend are to grow and have a life together; this mature and loving relationship should withstand the questions you ask and the answers you seek. Work toward “first love”….where there is enough caring to keep you strong and enough passion and play to keep and grow that sweet feeling of unforgettable love.

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Winter series

keep the winter blues at bay!

Come and share great conversation, insights and a glass of wine with our empowering wellness professionals, inspirational speakers and spirited hosts

Sponsored by:

Style & Substance and the Champlain Wine Company


1st and 3rd Wednesdays from 5:30 to 7 p.m. at the Champlain Wine Company

8 City Hall Place in Plattsburgh

Local wine and beer available for purchase

Speakers include:

• DEC. 18: Dana Gunn, Licensed Nurse Practitioner

Janine Kemp-Mead, Skin Care Professional

Speakers for Jan. 15, Feb. 5 and 19 to be announced soon!

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