It’s not easy, changing the way our brains have become hard wired, but it is worth it, especially if you do not like parts of yourself and are not pleased with how your actions impact the world.
I remember at Fletcher Allen, I was in the parking garage and I was trying to park and had to back up some and this man stopped behind me, honked and flipped me off. I ran into him on the way in, threatened him with physical harm and told him I was on my way to see a loved one in rough shape and didn’t need to deal with his crap.
He was dying of cancer.
I ran into him later, in Plattsburgh of all places, and apologized.
I haven’t been perfect since then, but I try because assumptions usually leave me with a foul taste in my mouth and providing the benefit of the doubt, even if it backfires, leaves me happier and also infuses a little positivity into someone else’s day.
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