The unspoken rejections may be registered as not being invited to birthday parties or being asked to stay overnight at a classmates house. These experiences are heartbreaking and serve to reinforce the angry or disconnected child’s fears of mistreatment and/or rejection. Caretakers and other adults can help the disconnected or angry child by catching them being nice or doing something for someone else. These children are not bad or broken but rather they have made adaptions to their life situation that does not serve them well at all.
There are many famous and not so examples of children who grew up in challenging circumstances and went on to be happy and productive adults. In many instances, these courageous children sought support outside their own home. As an adult you have a chance to help to change a child’s life just by being kind, patient and compassionate. For some children, you may be the only person that will give these gifts.
Remember, all kids count.
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