Michele Armani and Sally Meisenheimer
To live your life as an example you should define and clarify who you want to be.
Have one or several role models of who you would like to become or behaviors you would like to emulate. Use their traits to model yourself after. Sometimes it is a different role model in the business world, the parenting world, the friend world and the relationship world! Think of what these people would do or would have done in different situations that you have encountered.
Give sincere compliments and accept them graciously. A compliment, most genuine, is about how someone acted or responded and is said without fishing for one in return.
“I loved the way you handled that”, “That was a tough situation and you really stepped up”, “Thanks so much for coming to my rescue”… Say thank you, when someone does little things, not just big things. You are then contributing to the good examples that others are modeling.
Create a ritual as you walk out of the house every morning. These rituals can be serious: a prayer or meditation about a quality you want to cultivate such as honesty, integrity, strength, or compassion. Wear a bracelet or post a reminder of qualities you are striving to achieve. Choose a word every day to guide your interactions for that day. Some rituals can be much more lighthearted, but encouraging just the same. Look in the mirror and say to yourself, “You can do this!”
We can all get off track from time to time. Living your life as an “example” and not a “warning” takes reflection and attention.
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