So a punch is, say, processed the same as something that would be considered an emotional assault.
It gets better.
In an article published in Psychological Science, researchers indicated that emotional pain is basically worse than physical pain, not during the processing stage but in terms of the lasting impact.
Dr. Kip Williams from Purdue said, “While both types of pain can hurt very much at the time they occur, social pain has the unique ability to come back over and over again, whereas physical pain lingers only as an awareness that it was indeed at one time painful.”
Free speech shouldn’t be used to inflict pain, maliciously, or not, in some cases. If you really examine it, one could say that for an intelligent individual, words are his or her tools or weapon, able to be wielded in intensely hurtful ways without the worry of getting into trouble. For a less intelligent person who is strong, maybe the physical is that individual’s only tool or weapon, except he or she might not use it for fear of getting in trouble, even though studies show the person inflicting emotional pain is actually causing more harm.
I say don’t use either, though the existing system does seem sort of backwards and unfair.
Pain is pain.
I mean, yes, if someone tells us it hurts that person when we breathe, well, that is going to be a difficult pain to remedy. I guess I’d just stay away from the person.
But often, we refuse to recognize pain, let alone alleviate it for someone, because after we go through our rationalizing process, we determine the pain should not exist. That is unfair, cruel and basically like looking at all the evidence out there and saying, “The world is flat.”
If we do decide, in our infinite wisdom, to recognize it, the next step would be doing something about it. Obviously that will be difficult and/or impossible at times, but in many instances it simply involves a change in language, ignoring that something might not bother us in a given situation and lending a hand or a hug, and standing up for someone even when we don’t understand or agree with the reason that person is in pain.
An important thing to remember too, is that often, when someone’s pain triggers a defensive reaction in us, we should look within and examine ourselves, because while not always, that is a strong indicator we are guilty of something.
Pain is pain, and I don’t know about you, but I’d like to see less of it in the world.
And let’s be real, everyone who is ignorant in one moment, wants their pain relieved when they are experiencing it.
Reach Editor Stephen Bartlett at firstname.lastname@example.org.