Even long term friends or family can drift apart and the grief associated with these losses may be the most conflicted. While we may occasionally see them, we are often left with mixed feelings about those occasions. Those are the feelings that are most ambiguous. While many of these relationships become irretrievable at some point, there often remains the haunting feeling of "why?"
Adults often have the ability (or disability, depending on your perspective) to simply dispatch the relationship like leaving garbage at the curb. These events are often more troubling for young people who seem to be less guarded and more open to the injuries associated with failed relationships and loss.
To those possessed of such tender hearts, I feel for you and at the same time I admire you. Your heart is still largely intact. At the risk of sounding cynical I offer this; "Time and age seem to dull the senses and the wit." Remember all kids count.
Scot Hurlburt can be reached by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org